Friday, May 18, 2012

Child Rearing, Am I wrong?

I overheard two women talking today and, one asked the other "what is wrong with the kids these days?" I did not say anything while I watched her child throw a fit on the floor and she kept asking the child "do you want another candy or something?" As they continued on their way, I looked at them and then thought to myself: Hmmm,what is wrong with the kids these days? My only conclusion is the following:

1. You can't spank your child for fear of CPS being called.
2. We took Corporal Punishment out of the schools.
3. Timeout (enough said on this one.)
4. Kids having kids (although this has always been a problem.) Grandmother at 35.
5. Trying to keep up with the Jone's, when you can't afford to. Basically spoiling the kids.
6. Doing everything for them, after a certain age (cleaning their room, no chores, etc.)
7. Parents Complaining that there are things that should not be taught by the school, yet they are not teaching it in the home (guess where they are learning it people, from other kids that have not been given the proper information.)

Yes, Television, movies, sports figures, Actors/Actresses, and Musicians are contributing factor when raising children. But, you are the parent and if you are doing your job 9/10 those factors are irrelevant or have very little influence on the child. I was spanked as a child (I said spanked, not beaten.) I had chores around the house and I was responsible for keeping my room clean. And at a certain age I was even taught to cook so that every once in a while if need I could cook either for myself or the family. I did not get everything I wanted, but I had everything I needed. And, if I messed up in school, The principle got out the paddle and then when I got home my mom or grandmother got out the switch, wait, I meant I had to go get the switch that they were going to use.

The parents goal is to make sure that their kid has all the basics, food, clothing, shelter, proper education and, loving parents. And, if along the way you can afford to give them some things out side of the basics that is fine as long as there is no excess. I am sorry even if I can afford it, there is no reason for my child to have laptop, Desktop, iPad, 30" HD T.V, Wii, etc. (you get my point) on their room. And, when did we stop making our kids go outside and play, interact with other kids, get some exercise. It bad enough our school are cutting most of the programs that we enjoyed when we were kids (gym, music, art, etc.) now they aren't even doing these things at home.

Let me conclude with this,
No,  I do not have children and, I know people say every day that you don't know how to raise kids until you have them. Or, you don't know what you will do until you actually have children of your own. My reply to that is as follows: I have held the same view on child rearing since I was in High School, ask my public speaking teacher, if he's still around. But, more importantly that excuse can be used for almost anything. I have been a child, I have been around children, and I have seen enough poor parenting to know that if you are given the core values needed to be a productive and contributing human being. You will pass those traits on to your children. When they say that most of, if not all of what you learn as a child carries over into adulthood it is true. If you spoil a child, do not provide boundaries or, discipline; then more than likely you will produce an adult that does not function well in a society that requires you to know what the boundaries are and to have some discipline.

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